Golf, a Phone, and the Holy Spirit

I spent a good portion of the morning working on the melody for a new song. Deciding that I needed a break, I threw my golf clubs in the car and headed to the Highlands golf course in beautiful Bella Vista, Arkansas. This is a course that, I had been cautioned, was not for amateurs, but ignoring my 32.5 handicap—if you are a non-golfer, that’s abysmal—I ventured forth.

     I was paired with Caleb and Dorian, two men in their thirties who announced they would be playing from the yellow tees. I play from the reds, sometimes referred to as the ladies’ tees, but that is sexist and demeaning, so they are henceforth and forever more the senior’s tees. Both of my playing partners announced that it had been quite a while since they played, so I shouldn’t have expected much from them.

     Both hit drives that I only wish I had the power to hit. They both wished the course designer hadn’t put trees where their shots landed. By the end of nine holes, they had lost at least ten golf balls between them. I lost two.

     As usual, my first drive landed smack in the middle of the fairway about 130 yards out. It took two more shots to reach the green, where I two-putt for a 5. That was one of three fives I had on the first nine. I didn’t have enough fingers to count my score on most of the other holes. Let’s just say, “I shot fifty-fiveish to the turn…make that sixtyish”

     At the turn, Caleb and Dorian decided they were going to stop for a sandwich. Continuing a ministry my Bonnie started, I make it a habit to offer an olive wood cross from Israel to men I play golf with for the first time. But I just wasn’t in the mood. Then that soft voice in the back of my head told me, “Give them a cross.”

     That’s when the bargaining began. “I don’t think they’d want one,” the other voice inside my head offered. “Besides they have already headed to the restaurant. I’m not going to chase them.

Caleb was Joshua’s sidekick when Moses sent the search party into the promised land, the soft voice offered.”

Yes, but the other one is named Dorian, I responded. The Portrait of Dorian Gray makes me feel old.

You are old,” the other voice reminded me.

     As I made the turn to the next tee, I went the wrong way and happened upon Caleb who was parking his golf cart. “I have something I like to share with my playing partners when I play a round without swearing, especially when I play as poorly as I played today.”

Oh! There was plenty of swearing,” Caleb said.

No, I mean when I don’t swear.“  I handed him a cross and a cross for Dorian, “This is a reminder that God loves you, even when the golf course doesn’t.

     He seemed pleased to receive the gift. I proceeded to the next tee, hit a shot off into the woods, followed by a near-perfect mulligan drive to the center of the fairway about 150 yards out. Not sure of the distance to the green, I reached for my phone which has a distance finder app. “

    Oh, God,” I muttered. “I must have dropped my phone somewhere on the course.

     I returned to the cart shack and asked if anyone had turned in my phone. The foursome that followed us had already checked in and had not reported finding a phone. “I’m going to see if I can find it,” I announced, as I sped away.

     My search took me to all the locations I could remember stopping to take a wack at another shot. I had narrowed my search to the last three holes played, but moved on to the next hole, just in case.

     That voice in my head that always brings up the negative side of any situation reminded me how much trouble it would be to replace my phone. My phone had become my surrogate brain. Everything I need to know is in my phone: names, phone numbers, email addresses, birthdays, doctor appointments. I am brain-dead without my phone.

     Suddenly, an unusual peace came over me. “This is just an inconvenience; it will all work out.” Moments later, I saw the starter driving up in a golf cart, waving to get my attention. “Someone brought in your phone ten minutes after you left to search,” he shouted. They have it back at the pro shop.”

     As I started back toward the pro shop, a wave of thankfulness washed through me. Tears started to flow. After offering a prayer of thanks, laughing, I spoke to that soft voice inside my head, as I explained to myself what happened, “You were testing my obedience, weren’t you?”

That soft voice, possibly the Holy Spirit, had nothing more to say.    

Below are the lyrics to the song I was working on this morning:  I may have to substitute the word “golf” for “Church” in the final version. You can choose whatever words apply to your situation.

If Only I Could Serve the Lord
“If only I could serve the Lord,” I heard a Christian say,
“I’d build a church or feed the poor, but life gets in the way.
My home, my work, yes even church can keep me occupied,
      and I forget to serve the one who on that cruel cross died.
Forgive me, Lord, for putting you in distant second place,
   .  when you gave all to rescue me through your amazing grace.
Lord, help me show my thankfulness for all the gifts you give,
       and show the world that you’re my Lord by how I choose to live.

The God of Hope brings joy and peace to those who trust in Him.
He saved us from our fallen state and washed away our sins
To live and love and serve like Christ, a vision we now claim.
Let everything, we do today bring honor to God’s name.

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

Is America a Racist Nation?

Let me offer a glimpse of history from a different perspective. Growing up in Washington, D.C. during the 50s and 60s, I saw prejudice from both sides of the fence, and I want to say at the outset that stereotypes that govern our fears are wrong and have been and continue to be wrongly exploited to keep us separate.

In 1954, the Supreme Court, in Brown versus the Board of Education, ruled that separate, but equal schools were not equal, and therefore unconstitutional. Over the summer, I was transferred from Eastern Elementary School to Kingman Elementary. It was the first time I had any extended contact with another race, and I can tell you it was as uncomfortable for my new classmates as it was for me. People who grew up in other parts of the country where schools were traditionally integrated cannot understand how difficult it was to make that transition.

Immediately following Brown versus the Board of Education, white families fled Washington to the suburbs. Mr. Mosser was the first on our block to sell to a negro family. (Please don’t be offended by the words I use in this piece. This was the language of the day.) Mr. & Mrs. Hines, with their daughters Judy and Risa, were wonderful neighbors, as were other negro families that moved in, but that didn’t matter. Within six months, D Street Northeast had only a handful of white families.

My life was not significantly impacted by integration. There were a few small incidents at school — nothing beyond what you might find at other schools. I played with the kids in the neighborhood, swam in the Rosedale pool, and pretty much got along with everyone.

My interest in school started to wane in the fifth grade. In the sixth grade, Portia Ware, a wonderful colored teacher (another term we used) rekindled my interest in learning. I joined the staff of the school newspaper and was given the job of selling ad space. One potential advertiser, a black man who owned a shop on H Street, pulled a knife on me and told me to get the hell out of his shop. By contrast, there was the Jewish owner of Sam’s Car Wash who not only bought an ad, he also gave me a job passing out fliers.  

During the summer between sixth and seventh grades, a couple of incidents changed everything for me. My white friend Howard Riley and I were playing tennis on the court behind Eliot Junior High. It had turned dark, and we were about to head home when I felt something hit me in my side. As I turned to see what happened, a sharp jab to my nose knocked me to the ground. I looked up and saw two black kids — probably high school age — laughing at me. They ran away as Howie came running toward me with his tennis racket ready for battle.

A few weeks after my attack, my brother Tommy and his friend Terry Posey were sitting on a fence when they were sucker-punched by a group of colored men. I became afraid and spent more nights than I like to remember crying myself to sleep. When I returned to school in the fall, several of my classmates learned about my attack and started to taunt me. “The LeDroit Park gang is coming to school,” they whispered, “and they are looking for you.”

One day I was looking out the 3rd floor window of my classroom and saw a car pull up. A high-school age kid got out and started toward the school. I don’t remember the boy’s name, let’s call him Ronald. My classmates had told me he was the one who was after me, and I knew he would be waiting for me when school ended.

After about five minutes, I noticed that the boy was peering through the window into our classroom. I don’t know where the teacher had gone; she was not in the room  As he walked through the door, I stood up, raised my hand, and gave him the come here signal with my index finger. He came toward me and I directed him into the coatroom.

With a quivering voice, I asked, “Why do you want to hurt me?”

“Hurt you? Who the hell are you?”

I told him my name and he shrugged. “I’m here to see my little brother. I don’t have any issue with you.”

I had spent countless sleepless hours worrying about the day Ronald would come. How sad. Fear has been called “false expectations appearing real.”  

Seventh grade found me at Eliot Junior High. I remember playing touch football in gym class. No matter how open I got, the ball never seemed to come my way. Then, in a particularly tight game, the quarterback, racing to avoid being tagged, threw the ball in my direction. I can still see the ball coming toward me. I stretched out my hands and the hard rubber football landed securely in my palms. I ran across the goal line with the winning touchdown. From then on, the other team always had to cover me, even though the ball seldom came my way.

One afternoon I was killing time alone in one of the far corners of the playground. A kid who had a reputation for being a bully approached me. “You’re pretty smart, aren’t you?” he said.

“I do OK,” I responded, knowing that being smart was enough of a reason for him to kick my butt.

“I’m having trouble in math class. Could you explain this equation to me?”

I helped him. A few years later he repaid my kindness.

In April or May, I made the mistake of ticking off a kid named Richard S. The challenge was issued, and Richard said he would see me after school. At the end of the school day, each homeroom would form a line, march down the stairs, and exit the front of the school. There was no escape! There was no escape unless you were at the back of the line and knew you could slip out a window in one of the ground-level classrooms and exit from the rear of the school. Which I did.

That worked for about a week. Then one of the kids told our homeroom teacher what I had been doing, and she instructed me to exit the school with the other kids. I made it as far as C Street before Richard and his friends caught up with me. They had started to push me around when my friend Riley came along in his cadet uniform. He wore his ceremonial sword, so everyone paid attention when he told them to leave me alone. Richard gave me a quick kick in the butt, then everyone headed home. Howie and I stayed friends until he stole my girlfriend from me just before my high school senior prom.

The 8th and 9th grades were for the most part uneventful. I became president of the Bible Club, and Norman Tennebaum, a Jewish kid, became vice president. (Yes, there used to be Bible clubs in public schools.) Most kids at Eliot liked Norman and me, and much to my surprise, we were contenders for the coveted American Legion Award. The day before the award ceremony, I was going up the stairs when Pokey, a short, pesky kid tripped me. As I fell, I spun around and kicked him in the chest which sent him tumbling back down the steps. He wasn’t hurt, nevertheless, the inevitable challenge was offered. Pokey was smaller than me, so I knew a pushing match was the most I had to fear.

But when I exited the school, I saw Pokey and Norman Tennebaum going at it in the middle of a circle of kids. I thought for a moment about getting involved but headed home instead. At the awards ceremony the next day, I received the American Legion Award for good citizenship. I have always been chagrined that my name was inscribed over the poorly erased name of Norman Tennenbaum. There is an interesting back-story in our book.

Over the summer, my dad took Mom and me to Florida to care for his aging aunt. Aunt Etta had a lovely little home in Palm Beach. I enrolled in the High School that was across the bridge in West Palm Beach. At school, I discovered discrimination is not always a race thing. Wanting to help me “fit in,” my dad bought me several Hawaiian shirts. Not only did the kids at the high school not wear Hawaiian shirts; They also didn’t wear anything that had colors that would run when you got caught in the afternoon thunderstorms. The fact that I dressed funny and was incorrectly identified as one of the ‘rich kids’ from across the bridge made me persona non grata. It’s no surprise; I do not remember the names of any of those students or the teachers at that school.

I returned to Washington in January and prepared to enroll in Eastern High School. On the first day of school, I was walking up the steps when I encountered the principal “Are you Donnie Sennott?” he asked.

“Yes sir.”

Do you have a brother Tommy and sisters, Pat and Shirley?

Again, I answered, “Yes sir.”

I couldn’t believe his next words. “You are expelled. I will let the principal at Anacostia know you will be attending there.”

Anacostia was a high school that had about a 50-50 mix, as opposed to Eastern which was, I believe at the time, all black. My high school years probably would have been significantly more difficult had the change not happened.

The Supreme Court decision in Brown versus the Board of Education was validated when I started classes at Anacostia. I had attended Palm Beach High School for only a semester, but it took the rest of the school year for me to encounter anything in my classes at Anacostia that hadn’t already been covered in my classes in Florida. If you will allow a personal opinion: forcing children to attend substandard schools is one of the cruelest forms of racism.

Race relations were excellent at Anacostia. I started dating a wonderful Christian girl who was as “color blind” as anyone I have ever known. Our ‘click’ included whites, blacks, Christians, and Jews. During my years at Anacostia, I only felt uncomfortable following a football game against Spingarn High School. I, with my girlfriend Mary and our friends Steve G. and Deana P., was walking home from the game when we spotted a group of ten to twelve Spingarn students walking toward us.

Looking toward the girls I said, “This doesn’t look good. You two should run toward that house if they start running toward us. Steve and I will try to delay them until you reach safety.”

I was scared. The group stopped across the street from us and seemed to be deciding which way to go. The apparent leader looked familiar. He stared at me, smiled, then pointed at another Anacostia student, Richard, and led the gang as they ran past Richard H., punching at him as they ran by. The gang leader was the bully from Eliot Junior High that I had helped with the math problem.

My father served with the Metropolitan Police Department. When I was nine or ten, he’d take me to Harvey’s Garage in Southwest D.C., where a group of policemen would gather with other cops to discuss the week’s events. Was there prejudice? Of course, there was. My dad worked in the predominantly black 14th precinct, and he had to deal with the criminal element. Did he use language that today is recognized as unacceptable? Yes. Was he a racist? That’s debatable. 

Ed Sennott was loved by family and friends. At his funeral, many stood to praise him. Nearing the end of the service, the minister asked if anyone else would like to speak. From the back of the church, we heard a woman with a soft voice ask if she could speak. My brother and I turned to see a neatly dressed black woman coming forward. “This isn’t going to be pretty,” Tommy whispered.

“Thank you for letting me speak,” the woman said. You don’t know me, but Mr. Sennott was very special to me.” She paused as she tried to control her emotions. “You see, when Mr. Sennott took over the statistics department at the Metropolitan Police Department, he had the opportunity to hire someone to assist him. He hired me. I was the first black woman hired for a significant administrative position within the MPDC.”

You are so intimately aware of me, Lord. You read my heart like an open book and you know all the words I’m about to speak before I even start a sentence!
Psalm 139:3  (TPT)  

In the book YOUR HEART IS AN OPEN BOOK: Fill It With God’s Love, Bonnie and I included a story titled “Seeds of Prejudice,” in which I shared how the seeds of prejudice were sown in my heart following the murder of Martin Luther King, Jr. Standing on Ridge Road in Arlington, Virginia, watching the glow of fires in the distance as rioting spread across Washington, I felt an anger that could have consumed me. It took years for that anger to be healed.

“In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.  Ephesians 4:26-27 (NIV)

There is a wave of anger spreading across our nation that threatens to consume us. The loudest voices aren’t always the wisest, but they are the ones the press tends to highlight. Calls for reconciliation are being drowned out by demands for retaliation and retribution. Too many are becoming what they claim to hate.

Is America a racist nation? No. America is a nation that has people of all races, religions, genders, and political persuasions who allow prejudices to influence how they treat others. It’s time we took the following words from Colossians to heart

Be merciful as you endeavor to understand others, and be compassionate, showing kindness toward all. Be gentle and humble, unoffendable in your patience with others. Tolerate the weaknesses of those in the family of faith, forgiving one another in the same way you have been graciously forgiven by Jesus Christ. If you find fault with someone, release this same gift of forgiveness to them. For love is supreme and must flow through each of these virtues. Love becomes the markof true maturity.
Colossians 3:12b-14 (TLB)

Blessings,
Don

To Kneel or Not to Kneel

Growing up in the Church of the Epiphany in Washington, D.C., serving as an acolyte may be part of the reason for my bad knees. Even when the Book of Common Prayer indicated congregants could either stand or kneel, Rector Kane opted for kneeling. In fairness, I must admit that soccer, tennis, and football deserve most of the blame for my bad knees.

As a young adult, I found kneeling uncomfortable and spent part of the time on my knees, allegedly in prayer, praying that the prayers would soon end. Why would he put us through such torture? I wondered. As I look back on those days, I realize that I was trending toward the less spiritual side on the pendulum of spirituality,

Recently, I was reintroduced to Psalm 95, and the words—Come let us worship and fall down. Let us kneel before the Lord our maker—caught my attention.  I wondered how many times the words kneel or bow down (related to the worship of God) appear in the Bible.  I discovered a score or more verses about bowing down to God and scores of verses that refer to God’s prohibition on bowing down to worship anyone or anything else.

Bow down – a verb meaning to bend at the neck, waist, or knees as a display of respect, honor, or obedience. It is an expression of humility.

It is noteworthy that the only verses in the New Testament that use the words bow down are found in Matthew 2:11 where the Maji bowed down to the baby Jesus, and the words Satan spoke to Jesus,
recorded in Matthew 4:9: “All this I will give you,” he said, “if you will bow down and worship me.”

In Ephesians 3:14, the apostle Paul wrote about kneeling to the Father, but that was more of a comment on his personal practice, not a general prescription for prayer. Does that mean that bowing down (kneeling) became old school, something that was not required of followers of Jesus?   

I believe that New Testament writers used another word found approximately 70 times in the Bible: humble. Over the years, countless pastors have reminded their congregations, “If something appears three times in Scripture, God wants you to pay special attention to it.” What about verbs (action words) that appear repeatedly, like bow down and humble?

Come, let us bow down in worship, let us kneel before the Lord our Maker;
for he is our God and we are the people of his pasture, the flock under his
care.
Psalm 95:6-7 (NIV)

The Lord upholds all who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down. Psalm 145:14

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.
1 Peter 5:6

So, what do we do about this? It is unlikely (and not something I would encourage) that our churches will suddenly start to include kneeling during prayer as part of their ritual. It would be uncomfortable for many and seem legalistic to others. There is, however, something every believer can choose to do on their own. In your quiet time, bow down in worship, kneel before the Lord our maker.

Recently I found myself in a dry period when it came to my prayers. I was saying the words, but my mind and heart were elsewhere. Then one morning, I don’t know if it was part of a devotional, remembrance of a sermon, or something I heard on the radio, but Psalm 95 came to me as a powerful
instruction. I got out of bed and went to my knees in prayer.

Instead of just praying because praying is expected, I felt I was in a genuine conversation with our Lord. Let me correct that; I was in a meaningful soliloquy with the Lord. I am listening more attentively, but the lines of communication have been inactive for a while. Psalm 95:8(a) continues, Today, if only you would hear his voice…

Lord, help us to hear Your voice and worship You in a posture that is
pleasing to You.  AMEN

Who is God to You?

This was an unusual weekend. I decided to drive by Tanyard Creek to see if anyone from Village Bible Church was handing out Bible tracts. I had joined two other church members in this evangelical effort last weekend—something way out of my comfort zone—but something I found to be unusually rewarding. If the team needed reinforcements, I was willing to help.

Arriving at Tanyard Creek, I was disappointed that no one was there. It was earlier than they normally start, so I headed home to knock out a few items on my to-do list. Time got away from me, and it was mid-afternoon before I gave the evangelical effort further thought.

The next morning, I was eager to go to church. I attend the 9 AM service. We also have a 10:30 service. As I turned the corner to enter the parking lot, there wasn’t a single car. I drove around the church, not a single person. Maybe there had been a power failure and I had missed the announcement, but there wasn’t even a note on the door. Momentarily, there was that sickening thought: The rapture happened, and I missed it. That’s the second time in the last few months that that thought came to me. Is God trying to tell me something?

Anyway, it finally dawned on me that I had been one day off starting with Friday; It was not Sunday, but Saturday. OK! I admit it, I’m getting old, but this turned out to be a fortuitous chronological hiccup. Tanyard Creek was on the way home. Entering the parking lot, I saw Mark Underwood. It turned out he was alone, so he welcomed my help.

Being a scientist and well-versed in the Bible, Mark is well-equipped to present the Gospel. He also has a wonderful approach to evangelism that can be used by anyone who loves the Lord. He starts with a friendly greeting in which he first gives his name and then says he is there to talk with people about their ideas about God. “Who is God to you?”

As I listened, his question elicited interesting responses: “My Father in Heaven,” “The Creator,” “Father, Son, and Holy Ghost combined,” and other straight-from-the-Bible responses. One woman offered a simple “I like Him.” A young man said, “He is my mentor.” One woman said she is a Christian and returned to let us listen to a lovely song she had found on TicToc: “Flowers” by Samantha Ebert.

Two Sisters from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints stopped by and shared their ideas about Jesus with us, as did three men with Rugged Faith Ministries, a group that offers “Adventure with a Purpose.”

One of the most interesting visitors was a young man who called himself “a low-watt atheist” Mark took that comment to mean that “the young man felt he was stumbling in the dark without enough light to see clearly (thus “low-watt”) to believe in God.”  Mark said he was especially glad when he returned from his hike—”He came up to us intentionally—to thank us again for the conversation and to say that he would be thinking more about what we talked about.  It’s great when the people come up to us instead of the other way around.” 

Mark added, “I will certainly pray for God to continue to work in that young man’s life to draw him back to faith in Him.”

The young man didn’t recommit his life to Christ, but he left with quite a bit to think about, as did I.

When was the last time you pondered the question, “Who is God to me?” We go to church. We pray. We tithe and try to love others as Jesus commanded, but how well do we know our God? As I stood listening to Mark, I found it difficult to put together in my mind a clear-cut answer to the question, Who is God to me?

For me, it is not a problem of too little faith, it is a problem of too much faith. It’s easy for me to believe the biblical descriptions of God because words like Father, shepherd, healer, guardian, comforter, master, teacher—even Lord are things I can see, feel, or touch, but God is so much more than all these combined. He’s hard to wrap our minds around.

Who is God to me? I am still working on that one. I’m sure it’s been said before, “A god small enough to define is simply too small to be God.”

Unrequited Love

The story is told about a kindergartener, who changed schools in the middle of the school year. He was having difficulty making friends, so he came up with the idea of giving Valentine’s Day cards to the kids in his class. His mother helped him prepare thirty-two hand-made cards, one for each child and a special one for his teacher. The day came, and he went off to school carrying a bag full of cards.

His mother was working in the kitchen when he returned home empty-handed. Fearing the worst, she asked him what had happened at school. He shook his head. “Not a one!” he said. “Not a single one.”

His mother was astonished when he suddenly broke into a broad smile. “I didn’t forget anyone, he said proudly. “Not a one!” He did not even give a thought to the fact that no one had remembered to bring a card for the “new kid” in class. The important thing to him was he had been able to show his love to everyone.

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”  John 13:34-35 (NIV)

That is a humbling standard. It’s almost as difficult for me to get my mind around as Matthew 5:48, where Jesus ends his discourse on loving neighbors with the words, “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

In the case of the kindergartener with his valentines, we have a glimpse of what perfect love might look like. His response to unrequited love was pure joy. He did what he did, expecting nothing in return. Sure, he hoped the cards would help him make friends, but he decided the best way to find a friend was to be one.

Easy for a five-year-old but not so easy for adults. Sometimes the risk of putting oneself out there doesn’t seem worth the pain. Maybe, you have been the type of friend Proverbs 18:24 describes as a friend who sticks closer than a brother. But you’ve been disappointed by, or even betrayed by your friend. You have been there through their ups and downs, only to have them walk away when you needed a shoulder to cry on. Unrequited love like that can trigger disappointment that can turn to bitterness that can lead to anger.

Are you angry because someone failed to respond the way you felt they should? It may help you move past your anger to remember love isn’t a quid pro quo virtue. There isn’t always a return on the investment when you are giving yourself. Sure, it’s human nature to feel disappointment when someone fails to reciprocate or respond appropriately to your kindness — it is Christ-like to forgive them.

God so loved the world…we can requite his love by loving him and by sharing his love with others. Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.  1John 4:7-8