Dear Friends,
In Galatians 1:10, the apostle Paul addressed the danger of “going-along to get-along.” Sometimes the desire to make people like or accept us can lead us to make decisions that lead us away from God. Finding the balance between being pleasing to people and being a “people pleaser” can be difficult. This is especially true when the one we are trying to please has a world view that conflicts with our personal world view.
When I speak of world view, I am referring to the way values and beliefs affect the way humans — either individually or as part of a group — interpret accumulated knowledge to form opinions on a variety of issues. The Christian world view is shaped by a belief in the Bible as the Word of God.
As for God, his way is perfect: The LORD’s word is flawless; he shields all who take refuge in him. Psalm 18:30
When we get into a discussion with another believer, we share core beliefs that can make our world views compatible. Conflict can be avoided by following the dictum repeated by St. Augustine, “In the essentials unity, in non-essentials liberty, and in all things charity,”
The apostle Paul offers us additional guidance: If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18
The issue becomes more difficult when the person we are trying to please has values or beliefs that conflict with our world view. What do we do when someone challenges our core beliefs? While there is no rule that requires us to join every argument we are invited to, we should keep in mind the words of the apostle Peter: But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.
1 Peter 3:15
Of course, there are people who will try to put you down if you dare mention anything about God or Jesus. They will take Bible verses out of context and challenge you to respond to their false presuppositions. They will do everything in their power to make you feel “less than” if you don’t have instant responses their questions. “Why do you believe in fairy tales?” they may ask.
When you encounter this type of person, take heart. “Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.” Matthew 5:10-11
In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted, while evildoers and impostors will go from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived. But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it. 2 Timothy 3:12-13
One Christian woman took to heart Jesus words: “Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. She clung to her friendship with a non-believing girlfriend for ten years hoping that her friend might come to know the Lord. One day she was attending a luncheon at her friend’s house when the “friend” began talking about subjects that were offensive.
The Christian had the option of being a “people pleaser” or to speak up and say something that might end the friendship. She recalled something she had heard: “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” She decided that she wanted to be right with God and prayed for the strength to do what she had to do.
If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. Matthew 10:14
Verse for the Week: We are not trying to please people but God, who tests our hearts.
1 Thessalonians 2:4b
Blessings,
Your Friends in Christ
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